On defense you have to wait and think, and thinking is the great bane of humankind. But defense expects less: you do what you can and go home. Offense is a lot funner: you are in the center of the ring and you can smell blood.
Mankind is not as social a LAN cable. Therefore, you need some social distance.
When Eftard insists that you to make yourself available to snooping, that you make yourself visible, note to yourself that a step has been taken to an Orwellian future.